Reflections on therapy, patterns and meaningful change.
Articles exploring counselling, psychotherapy, mental health, emotional wellbeing and the challenges many of us face in everyday life. Practical, thoughtful insights to help you better understand yourself and support positive change.
Why Do We Know What We Need To Do, But Still Struggle To Do It? Understanding Why Our Brains Prioritise Relief Over Long-Term Change
Do you ever find yourself knowing exactly what would help, yet still struggling to do it? Many people become frustrated when they can't get back into routines, feel flat, procrastinate or repeatedly choose short-term relief over long-term wellbeing. This article explores why our brains are wired this way, how stress and emotional energy influence our behaviour and why understanding ourselves often creates more sustainable change than self-criticism ever will.
Why Are We Pulled Towards Certain Behaviours? Understanding Anxiety, Relief and the Brain's Search for Safety
Do you ever find yourself repeatedly checking your phone, seeking reassurance, staying busy, overthinking or doing things you know aren't helping? Many of these behaviours aren't signs of weakness or failure. They're often the brain's attempt to reduce discomfort and create a sense of safety. This article explores why anxiety, uncertainty and temporary relief can pull us towards certain behaviours, how these patterns develop and why understanding them can help us build a healthier relationship with discomfort, uncertainty and ourselves.
Why Your Mind Never Switches Off: Anxiety, Overthinking and High-Functioning Anxiety
Do you ever feel like your mind is always on, replaying conversations, analysing decisions or preparing for situations that haven't even happened yet? Many people who experience overthinking are highly capable, self-aware and outwardly appear to be coping well. This article explores the relationship between anxiety, high-functioning anxiety, stress and overthinking, why some people find it difficult to switch off, and how understanding these patterns can help you develop a healthier relationship with your thoughts rather than becoming governed by them.
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